How to Avoid Getting Too Comfortable in a Relationship
It’s great when you get passed the point of having to impress your new boyfriend or girlfriend by always being on your best behavior. But be careful not to get too comfortable by avoiding these pitfalls:
1. Don’t just assume you have plans. Maybe you spend most Friday nights going to the movies, but don’t fall into a rut where you just assume that this is the case. Make a point to ask them if they want to hang out rather than just taking it for granted that you have a standing date.
2. Don’t slob out. Yes, you can relax and wear sweats – not every night calls for your best outfit. But don’t relax to the point of not showering, having bad breath or wearing your rattiest clothes around each other.
3. Control bodily functions. It’s never ok to let one rip around your boyfriend or girlfriend. If it happens, excuse yourself, and don’t make it a regular occurrence.
4. Resist TMI. That taco you had for lunch might be wreaking havoc on your digestive system, or your doctor might have told you that your foot rash is the worst they’ve ever seen, but resist the temptation to share every detail. They don’t need to know EVERYTHING about you.
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Non-Verbal Ways to Show You Care
It’s great to tell your boyfriend or girlfriend how you feel, but there are lots of other ways to get the message across that don’t involve words:
- Be respectful. Show up to dates on time. Don’t leave them waiting around. Value their time and the fact that they have a life of their own. It seems like a little thing but being respectful shows that you value them as a person and that you view them as an equal in your relationship.
- Pay attention. Put down your phone, turn off the TV and stop updating your Facebook page while they are trying to talk to you. Sit and look at them and listen to what they’re saying without being distracted. This shows that you think what they have to say is important and that you are truly interested.
- Remember the details. Did she mention in passing that tulips are her favorite flower? Did he rave about your moms chocolate chip cookies that one time? Remember these little details and store them in your memory for later. Then you can surprise them with little treats that you’ll know they love. They’ll be touched by your thoughtful gesture and be impressed that you took notice and remembered what they’re favorite things are.
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